Being successful at motherhood and balancing a career

Is it possible to be successful in both career and motherhood without sacrificing time and your health?

When I went back to college for a second degree, attending night school and sacrificing weekends was easy. Our girls were very young and would not notice or so we hope that mom was not there some nights to put them to sleep and the morning part of the weekends.

Moving forward a few years graduated and now working the night shift to make sure one parent is home for school drop off and pick up.

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Is showing them love, sharing, providing, setting goals, rules ENOUGH?

Screenshot_2016-08-15-12-27-00 (3)How do you know that all the decisions that you’re making are the correct ones?  Are the ones that are going to properly set them up for their future?  Are the ones to help form them to be loving, caring, supportive, educated, hard working individuals? Are going to guide them, and have them take a second thought when facing a problem?

 How do we know we haven’t broken their souls, minds, hearts, spirits, creativeness, and individuality; when we ask them to please do better, listen, behave?  Where is our inner guidance to support us; when doubt enters our mind: “Are we making the correct decisions for them and not us?”

Is showing them love, sharing, providing, setting goals, rules ENOUGH?

When does a person realize/know that they are doing a well enough role to not sacrifice the child’s imagination and life lessons?

Alone it was possible-together we accomplished it!

 

Rutgers

Last week we took our last steps to what we will soon call our past. Doors closed behind us, as the front door opens to a some what unknown future.  The path demonstrated some cracks, darkness, uncertainties, and light.  Though if we look afar we can find a bright path ahead of us.

30 months ago, we had a vague idea what we and our families would be embarking on, and there were moments many/some of us might of thought we had not made a wise decision.  As classes continued and clinical rotations accompanied them the amount of credits began to lessen.  Continue reading

Mommy guilt!

This morning all seemed to go as clear and graceful as the day that was brought upon us. Girls cooperated with their morning routines and were even ready 15 mins early.  “YES!!!! I will be making it to work early today”.

Enter drop off moment.  We walk in, say our good mornings, wash hands, put all articles away in the cubbies.  They sit down and I serve them breakfast.  Glance at my watch and wow I’m truly on point this morning.  Hugs and kisses to one and hugs and kisses to the next, but wait!!!!!  She won’t let go of my sweater. OK mommy loves you both and daddy will pick you guys up today.

And the water works begin.  Lower myself to her level and reassure her mommy loves and you’re going to have a wonderful day today. No NO No NO! Please stay, or can I please go to work with you.  Now this went on for 25 minutes and there was no reasoning with her as there is no reasoning with any 4-year-old. Negotiations, options, hugs, kisses and speaking; were all failed attempts on my behalf, but her guilt trip on me was definitely winning.  “Mommy you’re breaking my heart, because you’re not understanding me”.  How do I compete with that?  How do I bounce back and try to even win this one? Continue reading

Roles & Time

As moms, we wear many hats, and costumes.  Yet the most important role, I feel,  I have is being blessed with the opportunity of parenthood.  All the other undertaking that is present in my life has been put there by me and me alone.  I have chosen to pursue further education, while my daughters are still very young, and let’s just say it has not been easy on anyone from my husband to my-self.

 Now with that said here comes the magic part I’ve yet to master. Time….  Time has to be the biggest enemy against accomplishing any dream in life.  There is never enough of it, even when you believe; you have found a way to manage it.  How can one get through 5 quizzes, 2 forums, 16 chapters, plus work, and play the most amazing role mom and family Time!!! 

What an evil theory!!!!

The only step, I have been able to understand, but not master is mommy-hood.  If, I want to succeed in my career, then I need to continue nurturing the little ones at home, because that is what will matter most in the end.  Everything else, I will just play with the scale for as long as I can, without giving up. 

I may not catch up to Time, but I will figure out, how to wind- it- up, at my pace!

 ImageGirls art project balanced on Time!

Reason to start!

Being what was once considered a typical Scorpio; pre-twins days was a title I carried with pride. Now being called mami is one I wear with honor. Yet how do I go back and find some of that Scorpio sting that’s inside me, yet is not sure how to balance the once title and the new?

I am using this blog as a way to try to mesh the old with the new in order to keep what was once a fun, spontaneous person/fiancee to just being a mami!

My goals are to free write what is on my mind for 30 min. This will hopefully start giving me insight to what is inside my mind and what is presently going on at once.

If anyone wants to comment please feel free. I would love to hear from other moms/dads that may or may not be facing similar adjustments.

On a side note a milestone was reached in our home this morning. Day 5 of twins going pee pee in the potty. What a great accomplishment on their behalf and light starting to peek through the tunnel; symbolizing purchasing diapers will soon come to an end.